New Life After Divorce

In the SHM Community Forums, Jimmy responded to one member who's concerned about getting her life back after a divorce. He said:

Alittleunsure,

Welcome to these forums!

You do seem like you have yourself together, and you are making great use of therapy. Your taking the time you need to settle in, make friends and learn to know yourself before dating is some of the best, most well-considered approaches to life after a divorce. I was divorced in my late twenties and spent the next few years learning who I was and what motivated me. Those years forced me to grow up and realize why I kept getting drawn to women who were unhealthy for me. Then finally, just when I had just about given up, the love of my life showed up. maybe it was that I was finally grown up enough that a woman of her caliber finally noticed me. either way, I am more happy now than i ever imagined when i was alone. I will never regret my therapy, because it improved my capavcity for intimacy and made me understand what love is and isn't.

Now we have a couple of teenage boys and raising them is our biggest challenge. Somehow, I have to give them the fathering I never got. It's getting so bad, we're seriously considering dragging their little misbehaved backsides into family therapy.

Oh, if you want some serious inspiration, take some time to read other people's previous posts about divorce in these forums. You might want to answer any of their posts if they inspire you.

Meanwhile, again, welcome. Keep us informed.
Jimmy