Hating Yourself
In the SHM Forums, Dini responded to one member's concern who's struggling to find some answers on why don't he like himself. He wrote:
Sounds like you're having a tough time. I'm just an amateur here but it's hard to respond meaningfully without some sort of specifics. You say you "really don't like" yourself. Can you say why? What is it about yourself you don't like? I'm just thinking out loud but it seems to me if you can identify those things you don't like about yourself you can then move on to working on improving those things or learning to accept those things – we're all human and none of us is perfect.
Why do you feel trapped? By what? By whom? Hope you don't mind my asking but there are folks around here who might be able to offer some insightful and compassionate thoughts if you can be more specific.
"It is all me – everything that happens is me." Whoa there. Hope you don't take offense but I'm going to give you my honest gut reaction to that statement; it's pretty self-centered. It works both ways; whether you think you're the greatest thing since sliced toast or the world's biggest piece of crap it is, as you say, all about you. And the reality is it is not all about you or me or her or him or anyone else in particular. Why do you think it's all about you? Do you mean that "everything" is somehow all your fault? Are you blaming yourself for something(s)? If so, for what?
You sound pretty down on yourself FromTexas and I commend you for having the courage to say, in a nutshell, "I am in pain." That takes some emotional guts and is admirable. Obviously, what you want to reveal or not reveal is up to you but I do know from experience around here that the more specific you can be the more likely someone can lend a supportive hand. There's plenty of insight and compassion in these parts, along with honesty.
Take care and I hope you stick around. If you do I'm pretty sure you'll find something of value to you.
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